I Married a Super Hero

I don’t know how she does it. I sit back and think about it all the time, is she human? I guess I have to say now, I MARRIED the most amazing human in the world. In the midst of chaos she shines. Undoubtedly the hardest time in our lives came 50 days before our wedding. Most people are stressed out 50 days before their wedding normally but what had just happened to our family shook us to the core. I lost my job. And when I say I lost my job, it felt like I lost my life. My reason for being on this planet. I was not in a good place. A mess, would be an understatement. I could see the fear in her eyes, how do we pay for this wedding? What do we do next? Where are we going? Will we have to move? Will I have to quit my job? Looking into her eyes always gave me relief, now it just brought me pain.

Katie works a VERY intense job, she goes to work everyday and changes lives, save lives. She comes home and is the rock for me. Look when she walks in the door after doing HOURS of intense therapy on very traumatic cases, manages a staff, handles hours of documentation, planning, and problem solving she then gets in her car and commutes the Atlanta traffic from Dougsville. As soon she walks in the door the kitchen is a mess, I am struggling to cook dinner and most likely need her help to fix up the mistakes I have made, she calmly walks in gives me a hug moves me aside and makes dinner editable. We sit at the dinner table and after a very long day she asks ME about MY day. After everything she has gone through in that day, she is the one who listens to me complain about my job. Thinking back when I had a job, the things I complained about to her seem so silly, things like Facebook, co-worker drama, and stupid emails. She deals with REAL issues, has REAL problems, but here she is listening to me vent, after the hours she has put in, after the commute, she is now back at work being my therapist.

50 Days before the wedding, we were scrambling for money, answers, and purpose. Who stepped up? Not me! Katie once again proved to be the rock in this relationship. As I answered call after after call about “WHAT HAPPENED?” “Did they see your ratings” “That is the craziest move, I have ever seen?” Katie answered questions like “What will the setting be on the table?” “What colors do you want here?” “What will the ceremony be?” As I stepped out, she stepped UP! She on top of her intense job, juggled the wedding planning, the family stuff, and me. I think it all the time, how does she do it? Especially after the fact, once the dust is settled and everything is done, I review and think “What did I do?” the list is usually small. She does it all, with such grace, such ease, most times I don’t even notice or appreciate it.

The days before the wedding Katie handled almost everything. Every little personal detail was lead by Katie. I acted as her assistant and was right there by her side, but as for actual work, it was all Katie. If anything, I acted more as a spectator or a fan. I watched the best human in the world juggle everything on her plate, and even days before the wedding MORE stuff would happen, and Katie always pulled through. She always does. It’s impressive. Even writing this blog does not showcase what she pulled off those last 50 days, the things she juggled.

The night before the wedding we were up to 3:00 a.m. working on personal touches. Katie demands the best out of people, and expects nothing but the best. It is one of the many reasons I love her so much. So Katie demanded that we get all these personal touches done for the wedding experience. She wanted it to not feel like a destination wedding. She wanted it to feel like a beautiful wedding that took place in paradise. And it did. We woke up at 5:00 to get ready for our flight and to finally say “I do” after 10 years of being together. Of the course of the next couple of days I write about the wedding experience. But I thought before I even do that, I needed to give credit to the person who made all those experiences happen. She is truly an angel, God put her on this earth for a very special reason. I have never met anyone like her, so compassionate, so strong, so driven, so beautiful, I could go on forever, but she is truly one of a kind. She is a superhero.